“Say What You Want”

February 27th, 2006 by gailhoneylette

  • Colour Wallpaper Wonderful World
  • Twenty seconds on the back time
    I feel you’re on the run
    Never lived too long to make right
    I see you’re doing fine

    And when I get that feeling
    I can no longer slide
    I can no longer run
    Ah no no
    And when I get that feeling
    I can no longer hide
    For it’s no longer fun
    Ah no no

    Well, you can say what you want
    But it won’t change my mind
    I’ll feel the same
    About you
    And you can tell me your reasons
    But it won’t change my feelings
    I’ll feel the same
    About you

    What I am is what you want of me
    Yeh, now that I’m not there
    I took the tables away from you
    It’s turned that I don’t care

    And when I get that feeling
    I can no longer slide
    I can no longer run
    Ah no no
    And when I get that feeling
    I can no longer hide
    For it’s no longer fun
    Ah no no

    Well, you can say what you want
    But it won’t change my mind
    I’ll feel the same
    About you
    And you can tell me your reasons
    But it won’t change my feelings
    I’ll feel the same
    About you

    Well, you can say what you want
    But that won’t change my mind
    I’ll feel the same
    About you
    And you can tell me your reasons
    But that won’t change my feelings
    I’ll feel the same
    About you

    I’ve said goodnight
    Try to sleep tight
    Ah just dream of me
    Go close your eyes
    Cause I’ve closed mine
    The sun will shine from time to time
    Oh, when you dream of me, yeh

    Well, you can say what you want
    But it won’t change my mind
    I’ll feel the same
    About you
    And you can tell me your reasons
    But it won’t change my feelings
    I’ll feel the same
    About you

    The First Cut Is The Deepest

    October 20th, 2005 by gailhoneylette

    Warmer would have given you all of my heart
    But there’s someone who’s torn it apart
    And he’s taken just all that I had
    But if you want I’ll try to love again
    Baby I’ll try to love again but I know

    The first cut is the deepest
    Baby I know the first cut is the deepest
    But when it come to being lucky he’s cursed
    When it come to loving me he’s the worst
    I still want you by my side
    Just to help me dry the tears that I’ve cried
    And I’m sure going to give you a try
    And if you want I’ll try to love again
    Baby I’ll try to love again but I know

    The first cut is the deepest
    Baby I know the first cut is the deepest
    But when it come to being lucky he’s cursed
    When it come to loving me she’s the worst

    I still want you by my side
    Just to help me dry the tears that I’ve cried
    But I’m sure gonna give you a try
    ’cause if you want I’ll try to love again
    Baby I’ll try to love again but I know

    The first cut is the deepest
    Baby I know the first cut is the deepest
    When it come to being lucky he’s cursed
    When it come to loving me he’s the worst

    The Best Version of You

    September 18th, 2005 by gailhoneylette

    International Airport

    New York

    ."

    That was her last memory in this place. The warm

    Manila

    air made her feel a bit restless and yet she
    feels excited. This is the first time in two years
    she’ll be seeing Miguel again. She was thoughtfully
    going through the immigration counters, thinking of
    how much she missed seeing Miguel. How different would
    he be now? Sure he sends her regular weekly e-mails
    and pictures but being the busy person that she had
    always been, she didn’t get the time to chat with him
    and buy a webcam.

    She’s finally out. "Where is Miguel?" She wondered.
    "Ah there!" she
    exclaimed when she saw the silver gray Nissan Patrol
    parked near the exit. TGW926. Yup, that’s Miguel
    alright. Her heart was leaping ahead of her as the
    driver got off.

    "Hey! I missed you!" He said, as he hugged her.

    "I missed you too. So much." She said, as she hugged
    him back. It was warm. It felt good to be back. It
    felt great to feel his hug.

    "Let me get those." He said pointing at her luggage.
    "Then we’ll have more time for hugging and chika."

    "Okay."

    Edsa, 4:30 am. Miguel’s cellphone rings. Mama, the
    name flashes on the screen.

    "You should really get that."

    "No, you should get that. She’s been waiting for you.
    She insist that we go straight to her after I pick you
    up form the airport. She also insist that you spend
    tomorrow with her." Miguel was talking about her
    mother. Miguel was an only child and his mother wanted
    a daughter. She would often tell Bea that since she
    doesn’t have a mom anymore, she should let Tita Doris
    be her second mom. She loved Bea as if she were her
    own daughter.

    "Hello? Yes, Tita. How are you nap po?… ah opo.
    Miguel already told me. Sige po. Okay po. I’ll see you
    later." She turns off the phone and looks out the
    window. The phone rings again, this time the name
    "Sugar" flashes on the screen. Hmmm, "Sugar." He was
    quick. He got a hold of the phone and answered it.
    "Hello. Yeah. Pauwi na. I’m with her na. Yeah.
    Tomorrow, I will. Promise. We’ll see you tomorrow."

    We? Is that supposed to mean me and him? See Sugar?
    Who is Sugar,
    anyway? "Who was that?" she couldn’t keep herself from
    asking. "Sugar ha?"

    "I’ll introduce her tomorrow. Uwi muna tayo sa bahay.
    By the way,
    kamusta na si Edward?" "Edward?"

    "Oo, si Edward, naalala mo yung boyfriend na iniwan mo
    sa

    New York

    ?
    Anong klase ka ba namang girlfriend? Kaya hindi kita
    niligawan eh.
    Baka makalimutan mo rin ako."

    "Ah si Edward. Hayun. Nasa

    New York

    ." Miguel has met
    Edward when he
    came to

    New York

    to give Bea a surprise visit. He
    seems a nice guy.
    Not the geeky economist Miguel pictured Bea would end
    up with. He is
    actually a cool guy and loves Bea a lot.

    "He called me up, a week ago, asking a lot of things
    about you. Parang may balak ata…"

    "Balak na?"

    "Tell me, did he propose to you? He sounded like he
    was going to
    propose to you kasi."

    "Ah look, here we are at Tita Doris."

    At Tita Doris’, 4:45 am. A pleasantly plump woman
    enters the living
    room. She was in her mid-fifties, a familiar warm
    smile and two open arms. She welcomed Bea, gave her a
    big hug and kissed her on the cheek. "Hay anak,
    kamusta ka na? Na-miss na kita. Pinakain ka ba nito si
    Miguel?"

    "Opo, Tita." She looked around. Not much has changed
    in this house.
    She remembers spending her college days in this house.
    She remembers sinking into Tita Doris’ arms when her
    mom died. She remembers only good things about this
    woman. She can’t remember a time when she had been
    unkind to her and yes, she loves her like her own
    mother.

    "Iha, sabihan mo nga yang si Miguel. Sabihin mo ‘wag
    padalos-dalos magdesisyon."

    "
    "Mama naman. Let Bea rest. I’ll tell her everything
    tomorrow." Miguel interrupted his mother before she
    can spill the beans.

    "Ha? What was that all about?" Bea was curious.

    "Bukas na lang."

    "Okay. Tita, if it’s okay I’ll go rest now." She
    hugged her, and
    proceeded to climb the stairs. Miguel followed her
    carrying her
    luggage.

    "Alam mo I missed this house. Uy sino ba si Sugar?
    Tsaka bakit parang worried nanay mo sa iyo?"

    "Bukas na. Sugar is having lunch here."

    "Hmmm, intriguing, pero sige. Bukas na." They were
    both standing as
    the door to the guest room. "Alam mo, it’s really good
    to be back in
    this house. I’ll see you tomorrow."

    Tita Doris’ 10:00 am. She woke up, sunlight flooding
    her bedroom. She was able to rest. She got up,
    arranged the bed sheets and took a nice, cold shower.
    Minutes later, she was down at the garden having
    brunch with Tita Doris.

    "Hi! Tita. Where is Miguel?"

    "Sinundo si Sugar."

    "Sino ba yang Sugar na yan? Nai-intriga na ako."

    "Iha, I’ll let Miguel tell you who Sugar is. Promise
    me something,
    though. Whatever happens you’ll always be my daughter,
    Bea?"

    She felt scared. Why was Tita Doris suddenly serious?
    "Opo naman."

    "Anyway, iha. I heard from Miguel your boyfriend
    sounded like he was going to propose a week ago. Did
    he propose?"

    Bea looked at her hands, bare of any engagement ring.
    She looked at
    Tita Doris and smiled. Before she could answer, Miguel
    showed up. With him is a woman she had not seen
    before. She was of medium frame, shoulder length hair
    and looked very feminine.

    "Sugar, the sister I never had, Bea. Bea, Sugar, my
    fiancée`." It felt as if somebody had thrown cold
    water on her. His what? Blood rushed to her head. She
    blushed. Her cheeks felt very warm. She couldn’t
    swallow. Her heart beating a hundred beats per minute.

    "Your what?" She looked at Miguel, blushing then
    suddenly white as
    with shock. "I’m sorry, Sugar but this is quite a
    surprise. Miguel has never mentioned you in any of his
    e-mails," she said as she looked at Sugar with a
    confused look. She looked at Tita Doris, she looked
    back as if she was consoling her.

    "Yeah, I got engaged. I’m keeping my promise. I’m
    getting married on Saturday. O di ba you’re here so in
    essence I’ve kept my promise."

    She managed to smile faintly. She hugged Miguel and
    congratulated him. She even managed to tell Sugar "You
    got a catch here, girl. Take good care of him or else
    I will snatch him under your nose." It sounded as if
    she was just joking, turning over a very important
    possession to it’s next owner. In the deepest recesses
    of her person, she knew she meant it.

    "He told me a lot of nice things about you." Sugar
    said, smiling at
    her as if they had been friends for the longest time.

    "I’m sure he has."

    Lunch was served. All of Bea’s favorite Filipino
    dishes. She and Sugar spent time chatting the
    afternoon away, looking at Bea’s and Miguel’s college
    photos and yearbooks. She found out that Sugar likes
    most of the things she does. They both came from the
    same high school. As she tried to get to know Sugar
    better during their afternoon chat, she realized that
    not only was she perfect for Miguel, she also seemed
    like the best gal pal Bea could find. They talked
    about the wedding details, the dress, the ring, the
    shoes, the tiara. They like almost the same places,
    the same styles, the same shops. She told Sugar they
    should do shopping marathon together. Had it been
    another day, she would be telling herself that this is
    really a great opportunity to find someone who
    understands her shopping needs. Except that this is
    not one of those days… Except that this woman, this
    perfect, feminine girlfriend was Miguel’s fiancée`.

    Bea’s phone rings. The name Boyfriend flashes.

    "You should really get that" Sugar told Bea.

    "Yeah, I guess I should. Hello? Yes? I’m good. I’m
    here at Miguel’s. Oh I have in front of me Sugar,
    Miguel’s fiancée`." The words almost got stuck in her
    throat, but she still managed to give Sugar a smile.
    "Listen, I’ll call you later. I have very good news
    for you."

    Miguel sat down beside Bea. Sugar was looking at them
    and asked "So
    tell me? Was there never a time the two of you were
    more than
    Platonic?" Bea and Miguel looked at each other then
    looked at their
    own hands. Miguel’s gaze turned to Sugar. He answered
    "Of course not. Bea and I were never like that."

    "As in?" Sugar inquired.

    "LOL, oo naman. She was a handful. Too much to handle
    for me. I can’t keep up with her. She never stands
    still." Miguel looked at Bea and smiled, his eyes
    turning into slits as his dimples gloriously show.

    "I guess that’s the way it is for you. But not for
    Edward." Bea replied, with a little hint of
    disappointment.

    "Well, Edward is tough enough." Miguel was still
    smiling.

    "Wait, speaking of Edward. I need to call him."

    Bea left the garden and went up to her room to call
    Edward. "Hello?
    Edward. Here goes. Yes. The answer is Yes."

    *********

    The wedding went well. It was one of the most elegant
    weddings she had seen. Sugar had everything covered
    and she was a very beautiful, blushing bride.

    "I, Miguel, take you, Sugar, as my friend and love,
    beside me and
    apart from me, in laughter and in tears, in conflict
    and tranquility, asking that you be no other than
    yourself, love what I know of you, trusting what I do
    not know yet, in all the ways that life may find us."

    Bea felt a stab of pain hitting her heart. She slowly
    got up, walked away from the spectators. Tears
    streaming down her flushed cheeks.

    **********

    Bea is once again on her way to the airport. Miguel is
    driving for
    her, this time with a wedding ring on his left finger.

    "Hay, here we go again. I’m driving you to the
    airport. Kailan na
    naman kaya tao magkikita?"

    "Ewan ko. Tell me something," her tone all too
    serious. "What was it that you love about Sugar? How
    did you know she was the one?"

    Miguel just smiled. "Dali na ano? Malay mo I need to
    decide in a couple of days di ba?"

    "You know what I love about her? The same things I
    loved about you
    before. The only difference is that she’s not as
    ambitious as you are. When you left for

    New York

    two
    years ago, I knew I don’t have a place in the life
    you’ve chosen. I don’t blame you for that. You’re good
    in your field and I thought to myself that it’s your
    right to move on without me. Moving away was a
    decision you made for yourself. I know this sounds
    silly and you might nag me about it but I found the
    better version of you in Sugar. She’s so much like you
    in so many ways but the only difference is she loves
    me more than you do."

    She wanted to cry the tears she had kept as he
    witnessed him say his vows, but kept her composure.
    She just chuckled a laugh. How could he move on
    without her? Why was it easy for him and not for her?
    As she got off the car, she gave Miguel one last hug.
    This time she felt her heart heavy.

    "I guess this is goodbye?" she told Miguel.

    "Wait, I’m not letting you out until you answer
    question. Did Edward propose?"

    Bea showed Miguel her left hand. In it was a one carat
    diamond
    solitaire ring set in platinum. "Yes."

    Miguel let out a sigh and congratulated her. As Miguel
    turned his gaze from the steering wheel to Bea’s face,
    he saw a single tear fall from her right eye and then
    she said, "If it gives any consolation. Edward is the
    best version of you that I can find in

    New York

    ."

    Collide

    September 8th, 2005 by gailhoneylette
    Pha247000023_1 The dawn is breaking
    A light shining through
    You're barely waking
    And I'm tangled up in you
    Yeah
    
    I'm open, you're closed
    Where I follow, you'll go
    I worry I won't see your face
    Light up again
    
    Even the best fall down sometimes
    Even the wrong words seem to rhyme
    Out of the doubt that fills my mind
    I somehow find, you and I collide
    
    I'm quiet, you know
    You make a first impression
    I've found I'm scared to know
    I'm always on your mind
    
    Even the best fall down sometimes
    Even the stars refuse to shine
    Out of the back you fall in time
    I somehow find, you and I collide
    
    Don't stop here
    I've lost my place
    I'm close behind
    
    Even the best fall down sometimes
    Even the wrong words seem to rhyme
    Out of the doubt that fills your mind
    You finally find, you and I collide
    
    You finally find
    You and I collide
    You finally find
    You and I collide
    
    
    The dawn is breaking
    A light shining through
    You're barely waking
    And I'm tangled up in you
    Yeah
    
    I'm open, you're closed
    Where I follow, you'll go
    I worry I won't see your face
    Light up again
    
    Even the best fall down sometimes
    Even the wrong words seem to rhyme
    Out of the doubt that fills my mind
    I somehow find, you and I collide
    
    I'm quiet, you know
    You make a first impression
    I've found I'm scared to know
    I'm always on your mind
    
    Even the best fall down sometimes
    Even the stars refuse to shine
    Out of the back you fall in time
    I somehow find, you and I collide
    
    Don't stop here
    I've lost my place
    I'm close behind
    
    Even the best fall down sometimes
    Even the wrong words seem to rhyme
    Out of the doubt that fills your mind
    You finally find, you and I collide
    
    You finally find
    You and I collide
    You finally find
    You and I collide
    

    When You Know

    August 30th, 2005 by gailhoneylette

    1110737689h26zpa When You Know
    That you know
    Who you love
    You cant deny it
    Or go back
    Or give up
    Or pretend
    That you dont buy it

    23uvkl_1 When its clear this time
    Youve found the one
    You never let him go
    Cause you know
    And you know
    That you know

    Icon34 When you feel
    In your skin
    In your bones
    And the hollows
    Of your heart
    Theres no way
    You can wait
    Till tomorrow

    Z3ibn When there isnt any
    Doubt about it
    Once you come this close
    Cause you know
    And you know
    That you know

    Fate You can feel
    Loves around you
    Like the sky
    Round the moon
    This is how
    Love has found you
    Now you know
    What to do

    1171893 When you know
    That you know
    Who you need
    You cant deny it
    Or go back
    Or give up
    Or pretend
    That you dont buy it

    Love When its clear this time
    Youve found the one
    You never let him go
    Cause you know
    And you know
    That you know

    And its time
    You come in
    From the cold

    And you know
    That you know

    Boys don’t cry…

    August 30th, 2005 by gailhoneylette
    11188604638o6wqy_1 You sit there on the couch
    Sipping your scotch and ice
    You turn the TV on
    And tune me out again
    
    So what would you say to me
    If you could talk to me
    You could ask anything
    I wouldn't lie
    But you're okay with this
    Damaging awkwardness
    So I'll just play it safe
    And keep it inside
    'Cause boys don't cry
    
    I used to hold your hand
    So tight there was no question
    But now even when you're near
    I've never felt so alone
    
    If you just stand beside me
    I'll keep you in my life
    Tell me how much you love me
    And I'll be just fine
    Don't be afraid of me

    Angel

    August 30th, 2005 by gailhoneylette

    1107398335rx3b04 Spend all your time waiting for that second chance
    For a break that will make it okay

    There’s always some reason to feel not good enough
    And it’s hard at the end of the day
    I need some distraction, oh beautiful release
    Memories seep from my veins
    It may be empty, oh and weightless, and maybe
    I’ll find some peace tonight

    In the arms of the angel, far away from here
    From this stark, cold hotel room
    And the endlessness that you feel
    You are pulled from the wreckage
    Of your silent reverie
    You’re in the arms of the angel -
    May you find some comfort here

    So tired of this straight life, and everywhere you turn
    There’s vultures and thieves at your back
    Storm keeps on twisting, keep on building the lies
    That you make up for all that you lack
    It don’t make no difference, escape one last time
    It’s easier to believe
    In this sweet madness, this glorious sadness
    That brings me to my knees

    In the arms of the angel, far away from here
    From this stark, cold hotel room
    And the endlessness that you feel
    You are pulled from the wreckage
    Of your silent reverie
    In the arms of the angel
    May you find some comfort here
    You’re in the arms of the angel -
    May you find some comfort here.

    The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go.

    August 24th, 2005 by gailhoneylette

    Flowers_1_1 When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn’t really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go!

    You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if his or her happiness means that you’re not part of it.

    Everything happens for the best. If the person you love doesn’t love you back, don’t be afraid to love someone else again, for you’ll never know unless you give it a try. You’ll never love a person you love unless you risk for love.

    Love strives in hurting. If you don’t get hurt, you don’t learn how to love.

    Love doesn’t hurt all the time, though the hurting is still there to test you and to help you grow. Don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s called falling in love because you don’t force yourself to fall. You just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing its chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

    Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering and growing.

    The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves.

    On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don’t ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.

    To love is to risk rejections; to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risking nothing!

    To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self; to love is to risk not to be loved in return.

    How to define love: fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain.

    Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last for a lifetime.

    Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end.

    Loving people means giving them the freedom that they choose to be and where they choose to be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks, for you know, that these were the things which helped you grow.

    Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way, whether it leads towards you or away from you. Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only then you’ll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love.

    Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire and tear you apart. Only love can make you cry and only love knows why. If you’re not ready to cry, if you’re not ready to take the risk, if you’re not ready to feel the pain, then you’re not ready to fall in love.

    There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love because every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that’s why it’s called falling in love. When you decide to love, allow it to grow. When you promise to love, refuse to let it die! 

    Love

    August 24th, 2005 by gailhoneylette

    Rainkiss_1_1 "There are some people who meet that somebody
    that they can never stop loving, no matter how
    hard they try. I wouldn’t expect you to
    understand that, or even believe it, but trust
    me, there are some love that don’t go away. And
    maybe that makes them crazy, but we should all be
    lucky to end up with that somebody who has a
    little of that insanity. Somebody who never lets
    go. Somebody who cherishes you forever."
    —Ally Mc Beal

    The Meantime Girl

    August 24th, 2005 by gailhoneylette

    Gail3 No Pressure, No Worries.

    Jan Javier

    She’s the one you call when you need an instant date to your next company party. She’s the first person you can think of calling when you just had a fight with "the girl". She willingly gives you the "woman’s perspective" on anything without getting all emotional and sentimental about every single thing. You love hanging out with her because, she’s funny, she’s quirky and for the meantime, she’s not interested in relationships which makes it perfect for you (she’ll joke about your "player" reputation instead of frowning about it). You love calling her because she doesn’t get into fights with you about why you didn’t call earlier or anything trivial like the way you dress, or why you put too much gel on your hair. You never have to try hard to look nice when you come and see her. Although she is not afraid to make fun of you and tell you how stupid you look with your new highlights. You never have to open doors for her or douse yourself with perfume because you know for sure, she will make fun of you. There’s no awkward silence in your conversations and you never have to worry about making stupid jokes just to fill the silence because you know, she will make you feel silly about your corny jokes.

    Your relationship with the meantime girl is based more on silliness, wise cracks, insults and occasional flirting. You know she will make fun of you when tell her details of your rendezvous with "the girl" but you tell her anyway because it’s so much fun when you can laugh at something that seemed absurd at the time without bruising your ego. Plus, the stories become really funny anecdotes you can actually retell over and over again. It works both ways because she will tell you details of her dates with her exes and you crack each other up simply because her stories make you feel less of an idiot afterwards.

    She’s actually quite a challenge to be friends with if not for her very engaging sense of humor. She can come up with a million definitions for "moron" and "idiot" and she’s not afraid to use them on you. She’s brutally honest and she hits you more times than you care to count. She will suggest books for you to read but expect that she will mess up the ending of books you haven’t read or even movies or TV shows you haven’t seen. She has PMS almost constantly and will insult you at every opportunity. She eats as much as you do and actually finishes her food when you eat out. She takes advantage of the fact that you can legally drive and with all the free dating tips she gives you, you feel obliged to be her personal chauffeur.

    And of course, beyond her i-don’t-need-a-man exterior, she has that peculiar, almost adorable way of making you feel that what you say or do actually matters. You have mastered the art of taking note of every single little thing because she taught you that girls get gaga over these "little" things. She will help you pick out the perfect gift for "the one". You now know the value of compliment even if it’s the simplest thing you can possibly come up with. And she made it easier to understand why girls can never have enough bags or shoes or lip gloss. Or why girls get so irritated at certain times of the month.

    Your relationship with the meantime girl is perfect simply because you never have to try too hard to make it work — no emotional melodramas, no complex relationship stuff that always makes you go crazy. At the same time, she has the sensitivity of a real best friend in a way that she can read you that most of the guys you’ve ever hang out with. She can tell almost instantly when you’re feeling bad about something and offer you a quick trip to the nearest coffee place so you can talk about emotional stuff without feeling like an idiot (strangely enough, these talks don’t feel as strangulating as when you have the "real talk" with the "real" girl). She is always available when you need to talk or to hang out with anyone else who can talk about anything other than basketball. And it’s almost amazing that you’ve never actually pictured her to take the place of "the girl" even when you can almost swear you two have had your "moments". Of which, you can remember her giving you the don’t-you-dare-fall-in-love-with-me look that she seemed to have perfected over the years.

    Admit it. Being with the meantime girl makes you think of being with "the one"; especially, because there’s something about her that you can’t seem to get enough of. The truth is, she is more attractive and smarter than most of the girls you’ve ever gone out with. You have been a witness of how she grew into this beautiful woman anyone would be crazy not to spend forever with. You’ve had moments when you try to convince yourself to think of her as the girl friend, the alternative to your guy friends, and not as a "real" woman who can take the place of "the girl". And though in moments of heightened loneliness, you sometimes think of the possibility of something happening between you and the meantime girl but you are too scared to tell her how you feel. What you feel for her is something so difficult to define that it wouldn’t be fair to consider possibilities of anything romantic happening between the two of you. Plus, the fact that you know more about her personal life, i.e. her past dating experiences than any other guy, makes you feel that going beyond friendship would mean betraying her trust.

    So instead, meantime boy, you prefer to keep quiet and enjoy the company of the meantime girl. It’s comforting because it’s safe. There are no expectations to take things to the next level. No pressure. No real worries. Plus, being with her has tested all your capabilities to be with "the one". And when that time comes, you know that all the conflicting emotions you have for the meantime girl would dissolve. Though in the back of your mind, you hope that this "meantime-ness" would remain and that your meantime girl wouldn’t rush to be someone else’s forever. You’d hope she’ll be by your side to pick you up in case you fall down again. Really, there is no reason to doubt the value of her existence. You have reason to hope for the best in your future relationships. After all, you’ve had years and years of practice.